Original About Me – March 2023

The Scarf Witch and me

A scarf is just a rectangular piece of fabric – formed from various materials – fluidly moving through seemingly infinite expressions. A scarf can signal a social or religious status, or can be meaningless fashion statement. A scarf can get misinterpreted just as easily as it can secretly change how you feel. It can liberate or oppress. It can be used to cover, to warm, even to strangle. It can be turned into a bag or a table cloth. It adorns on the maiden, catches the baby for the mother, and covers the cold shoulders of the crone.

A witch is one who practices magic, and what is magic but an understanding and working with the principles of the universe. For me, to identify as a witch is to subvert the reasons why it should not be so – to allow myself to dip into the nature of the energies around us. To be honest, I’m still grasping what it means for me. I can say that I converse with the universe in a reverent way, and my practice is rooted in honoring all that is and aligning with how I may align perfectly into my expression and be of service to others.

My name is Kelly, I’m in my early forties, and I have a very mundane and practical life outside of my practice, and for me, that is correct. I love my family, my career, and my overall situation in life. My story is not one of “finding the path to enlightenment” and leaving my mundane life behind. I understand this is the way of some. It is not my path. To that end, I love the idea of “mundane before magic” – I’m not one who is getting caught up in spell work for the sake of it. And while I have a lot of knowledge of esoteric concepts and systems from my early years, I am newly cultivating my practice, and will be sharing my experiences and personal observations and insights. It is important to me that unverified personal gnosis (UPG) is shared transparently and with a non-attached intent void of dogma. We are all only ever as good as we know to be at any given time, and what might work for me may not work for you.

Getting Here

When I was much younger, and even into my teens, I was knowingly very much into all things unseen. I hung out a lot in the “New Age” section of Borders (and later Barnes and Noble). Somewhere along the way, whether it be societal conditioning, getting caught up in the business of life, or outright fear, I stopped searching and I lost myself.

Looking back now, I can see where there were whispers from the universe – she was always calling me – patiently waiting for me to have what I needed to be ready to cross the threshold.

I worked out what scared me and built automatic habits to keeping myself safe, and I was very practical and leaned hard into skepticism. I’m grateful that I took that path because it lead me to a place where I have security and a lot of freedom to explore (even just in having the time and money to create this blog without needing it to be a business plan). The practice in skepticism helped me to have the discernment I needed to be curious without getting lost.

I ended up going down some personality system rabbit holes and I realized that I had literally built myself into a tomb. Once I started to loosen up the dirt, all of the insights started to flood in, and I am currently still catching my breath from the pure joy of it all.

I’ll share some of the key moments in posts here; in the meantime, I will say that there was a moment where I had a knowing that I was a “witch” – I didn’t even really know what it meant at the time, just that it was true, and it was the best word I had to describe it at the time. When I told my husband, his absolute non-reaction caught me delightfully off-guard. This was not surprising to him. As I mentioned some things to my sister, she said something along the lines of, “yea, you used to do that all the time.” So, all these years, so funny how invisible I was to myself, and yet, the luminescence of my being could not help but stay visible to those around me. In fact, it was my best friend who pronounced me as “The Scarf Witch” after I read one of my writings out loud.

Now, I’m just finding the courage to step into it – step into who I always was. And as I step into my essence – my purpose – I realize how much I really have a job to do here, and waiting in fear is robbing the world of my spirit.

Current Principles and Philosophies

(in no particular order)

I will likely go into details for much of this on posts – this is meant to be an overview of my current worldview.

There is more to reality that we cannot see and that we likely do not possess the ability to fully comprehend the fullness of all that is, to the point where I personally believe everything we perceive is only a symbol or a representation of what truly is.
Everything is always changing and nothing is permanent.
We are meant to bear witness to the infinite and ever fleeting now.
We can only control our perspective, and in turn, our actions.
Suffering is minimized by aligning with the flow of the universe.
Understanding the flow of the universe – or effortless action – requires work and attention.
Humility reminds us that we are all expressions of a unified one.
I believe the implications of the above statements hold true through to uncomfortable truths like:
- Morality, in the traditional sense of right and wrong, is not particularly useful and likely does more harm than good.
- All opinions may exist.
Uncomfortable truths in the world of form dissolve into unconditional love when accepting that everything is a unique expression of all that is and therefore must be.
Everything that can be said to be true, its opposite is also true.
Opposites are merely different frequencies/degrees of the same symbol.
Any given symbol can have different opposites depending on the angle by which it is viewed.
Two key movements of change and illusions of opposites are rotation and inversion (flip it upside down or inside out).

Current Interests

Runes, Seidr, Norse Shamanism/Spirtuality
I Ching – more as an underlying structure of energies than for Divination
Chaos Magic
Goddess/Deity work
Sacred Geometry
Essential Oils – general aromatic arts
Astrology
Human Design/Gene Keys
Tarot/Oracle Cards
Light Language
Sigils

The Scarf Witch